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Self care: Taking care of me first

I tend to be on the uptight side. I like things a certain way and I am rarely patient. If I ask for something, I like it immediately. Apparently not the entire universe works this way. Moving to Southern California has given me a pass to let things go and not worry so much. After almost two year, it’s finally working. I’m finally understanding self care and taking care of me first.

This last year couple of years have had many highs and several lows. But my family is in a really good place and for the first time in a really long time I am finding the air around me thinner and easier to breath. I can write these things now because it took those “lows” to make me realize how many changes I needed to make to find the highs again.

Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.

– Lucille Ball

With so many new and exciting opportunities coming up I am finally in a place where I just roll with the punches. There isn’t an elephant sitting on my chest, I can breath without a lump in my throat, and I love the sound of my kids tearing apart their room. By taking care of me, not without sacrifice, I have finally found the joy I so desperately needed to find again. I finally have my anxiety under control and am making a conscious effort to get fit. And by doing these things, I am much healthier and my family is much happier.

After almost two years, I finally joined a friend at boot camp. I had about 300 reasons ready for her on why I couldn’t make it and why I’d have to cancel. Then it hit me, I need to take care of me first. Without a healthy, happy mom, my family suffers.

Moms out there, give yourself a break. Take at least 30 minutes a day for yourself. I know it’s hard and we’ve perfected the excuses over the years as to why we can’t do things for ourselves. But trust me when I say that everything will be waiting for you in the end. Take the 30 minutes. You’ll be in a much better place than if you didn’t.

Do you own a gun?

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I recently came across a Facebook page about a child who was playing at a friends house after school one day. When the parents dropped their daughter off at school that morning, they never imagined it to be the last time they’d see their 13 year old daughter alive. You see, the daughter and her friend had found a loaded gun in a kitchen cupboard and it ended badly. Very badly.

When we moved last year, we knew we’d be starting over, and getting to know new friends and other parents. We agreed that we’d ask fellow parents if they had guns in their homes before we let our daughters go to any playdates at those homes.

Did we do that?

No.

Do we think about it?

All the time. continued

Getting alone time

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When my husband and I found out we were having a baby, it was a mutual decision that I would stay home. It’s been over six years now that I’ve been a stay-at-home mom. Now that we have two girls, I’ve found out so much about myself, my husband, and what it’s truly like to raise children. continued

Got Milk? Milk for a brighter future

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I have very picky eaters. They go through phases. One of my girls will eat everything in sight, then nothing the next day, or an entire week. I try not to worry; but as a parent, it’s hard. I’m always a little relieved when we start our bedtime routine. I know the girls will both get a full glass of milk during story time, and are getting some important vitamins and nutrients to make up for what they didn’t eat. continued

Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day

Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day is out in theaters today. Last night, I got an advanced screening of the flick with a couple teenagers I know. Kids can be brutal critics, so I wasn’t sure how this would go.

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The great news is all three of us loved this movie. I don’t want to give any spoilers about it, but some general reasons why we loved it so much… continued

5 steps to prepare your child for their first sleepover

Recently our daughter was invited to a sleepover birthday party. I know the parents very well, and didn’t hesitate at the invite. But I wasn’t sure if my daughter was actually ready for a night away from us. I didn’t know what the right age was for a first sleepover. Really, there is no right or wrong age. Only you know your child and how they handle themselves. Go with your gut to decide when the right time is for your child. After all, children are different. What is right for one 6 year old, may not be right for another 8 year old.

First Sleepover

When we got the invitation, I started talking to my daughter about the sleepover immediately. Leading up to the actual party, we talked about her anxiety and fears, along with the excitement she felt. continued

Top 5 must-have baby gifts

One of the most overwhelming details about having a baby is buying all of those much needed survival items. When I was pregnant with our first baby, I think we had over two hundred items on our baby registry. We didn’t know what we needed, so we put one of every item we could think of in our shopping cart.

It’s been six years since we had our first baby, and just over two years since we had our second. Needless to say, there are very few baby items that still exist in our home. But there are a few that we still use regularly. Consider these items “must-haves” for every mom and baby, and items that would make perfect gifts or additions to your own registry.

Baby Items continued

Break time is over…

Ever since I launched my book, 101 Disneyland Tips, I felt like I have very little to say. Things normally come naturally, and I just write.  I’ve been spinning my wheels around here trying to figure out what I’m doing. I felt guilty because I haven’t published a monthly newsletter…in months. I haven’t posted anything worthy, and I was getting a migraine trying to figure out what the heck to say. Ironically, I’ve given a ton of advice over the last few weeks to other bloggers, helping them with their content. That comes easy. continued

The Tooth Fairy

Well, it finally happened. Our oldest daughter finally lost her first tooth. It’s been hanging on for some time now. It seems the Tooth Fairy will finally be making a visit to our home.

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I associate losing teeth with my sweet baby girl growing up. And she’s growing up way too fast for my liking. She’s one of the last ones in her class to lose at least one tooth. She is over the moon excited to share this milestone at school tomorrow.

I will be rocking back and forth in the corner.

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Cam Bowman @CamBowman
Stay-at-home mother of two, wife, blogger, amateur photographer. Former flight attendant. Lover of all things Disney. Living the dream.
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